Activism, Bullying, Self Improvement, Uncategorized

Why The Internet Has 99 Problems And Logan Paul Is Not The Only One.

Since we hit 2018 less than one week ago, we’ve already had our first internet meltdown. On January 2nd, 2018, Youtuber Logan Paul shared a video of him and his friends visiting a forest in Japan that is a very well known place that people go to commit suicide. From the very beginning of the video, the concept of suicide was treated as an absolute joke by Paul and the rest of his team. When entering the forest they came across a dead body hanging from a tree, filmed it up close, laughed about it and turned it into a full 15 minute YouTube video to attract views.

Why is this wrong? Well, what logan Paul did was extremely disrespectful and inconsiderate but, lets look at the bigger picture.

Think about what you saw on YouTube 8 years ago, then think about what you’re seeing now. The entire concept of video making and entertaining has changed. It’s no longer about expressing yourself and creating quality content for people to enjoy, it’s solely about producing any content that makes your life look better than everyone else’s and video titles that people feel inclined to click on. Youtubers like Logan Paul follow this method and have become so invested in views and money that they have lost touch with reality. This also comes from the sense of entitlement that is developed when you have a large social media following, if you’ve ever seen a Logan Paul vlog, you would know his sense of entitlement and superiority is through the roof, he’s constantly causing public disturbances and creating trouble for other people wherever he goes and he gets paid for it. Now, don’t get me wrong. I believe that if someone makes quality YouTube content that they are passionate about, they should be paid for it. But there needs to be boundaries for what people can and cannot post. If there were clear and enforced guidelines of what you can post (and be paid for) Logan Paul would have never posted something like that. But a lot of the big youtubers we see use aggressive titles because they’re differen and shocking and thats what will get you views.

Here’s where we come in…
As an avid YouTube watcher I know what it’s like to sit on your computer for hours and hours looking for things to watch. I know it’s easy to trail of into pointless videos which usually ends up being completely harmless. But, when we watch youtubers like Logan Paul, we are feeding his career. We’re giving him our time and views which is giving him a platform that he has been abusing for quite some time now. Could you imagine if none of us ever clicked on his videos in the first place? Maybe things would be different, or maybe they wouldn’t. But I do know that is that if we make the choice to put our time and views into youtubers who make quality content and care about what they produce, things would be a lot different.

Watching “clickbait” videos is a huge waste of your time. We live in this bubble of social media and clickbait, where people are dying to think of a title for their video that will make you feel like you need that video in your life. These titles are created simply because the video is clearly not that interesting and they need people to think it is. Why else would you do it? Do yourself a favour and go live your life instead of watching mindless people live theirs. Trust me, you can save yourself a lot of time by being able to recognize and ignore clickbait.

What can we do to fix this? Although there is a lot that can’t be fixed or undone, as an individual give your time and energy to people that do good and work hard for their careers to thrive! There are so many entertaining youtubers out there who truly work hard and love what they do but just because they don’t cause a scene everywhere they go, they’re never recognized for what the do! Underneath this post I will put a list of youtubers who I watch personally that I think are very fun and admirable. Give them a watch, you might find someone you like!

Cody Ko

Emma Chamberlain

Shane Dawson

Liza Koshy

Jimmy Tatro

Tyler Oakley

Glozel

JacksGap

Joey Graceffa

 

I’m sure this will get you started, explore YouTube, find new (good) people, or just get off YouTube and go outside maybe? No? Ok never mind:)

 

thanks for reading!

 

Arden Sullivan

 

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Activism, Self Improvement

-What It Means To Be Kind-

In your lifetime you’ve probably been told to “Treat others the way you want to be treated.” This lesson is a good one but unfortunately not everyone uses it in their everyday life. The problem with us as humans is that we don’t know how to be kind. We all assume you have to constantly be ready to help anyone at the drop of a hat or follow people around asking if they need anything. These are acts of kindness but not necessarily the definition of kindness. We can and should help others as much as possible but we need to look within ourselves and ask “How do I, as an individual act in order to be a “Kind person.” or “What does it mean to be kind?”

This year I met someone at my summer job who has completely altered the way I look at  life and how I treat people. The kindness he puts out into the world is absolutely mind blowing. You may not think meeting a nice person is something to be mind blown by, but I think the opposite.  Genuine kindness can be hard to come across these days and I was absolutely floored after getting to know this person. What makes this individual so different from everyone else? Well, his acts are something that take a conscious effort 1.He will never make fun of anyone regardless of how much others do. This is a characteristic I didn’t possess for a very long time and struggle with to this day. The ability to push back against what seems like the most common opinion about someone. Not only to push back but to defend and rationalize discussion about any person or situation. 2 He never condones or follows any acts of bullying or aggression towards others. This takes a strong and confident individual. Standing up for what you believe in is hard enough on its own, but acting quickly and effectively to prevent a toxic situation from becoming worse is even harder. 3.He says a genuine “Hi” or “Hello” to everyone he passes. This may seem silly or unimportant but hearing a genuine greeting from someone you know and care about can make all the difference in your day. It costs nothing to have a genuine interaction with another human being, so why don’t we do it more often? Most importantly, he is an outwardly kind person to everyone he meets. This is important to me because it makes me feel like its okay to be who I am in front of this person. I don’t have to put on an act or bash someone to get laughs because thats not what they’re looking for. These types of people are looking for genuine conversation and interaction. Not the small talk and the gossip that small minds blow out of proportion. Now, It’s important to recognize and take after people like this because not only are these people hard to find but they are the most amazing people to be around. Getting to the point… We all need to be people like this! We should all learn to be outwardly kind and use our voices to uplift others instead of bringing them down. Give people the feeling of comfort when they talk to you! Stand up for yourself and others when people are being shallow or closed minded! Be someone that you’d like to meet. For myself, I met someone who is incredibly special and gives nothing but positive energy and kind words to everyone he meets. I now use this person as motivation and inspiration to stand up to acts of bullying and aggression, say a genuine “Hello” to everyone I walk by and even just have a more genuine, caring and positive interaction with someone. Overall just be kind to everyone because you owe that to yourself and to the world. Once we all find our “kind person” to be inspired by, we can take action to make ourselves more of a ‘kind person’ and maybe one day become that person for someone else.

-Arden

Activism, Self Improvement

If a story moves you, act on it!

“Stories are necessary, but they’re not as magical as they seem, says writer Sisonke Msimang. In this funny and thoughtful talk, Msimang questions our emphasis on storytelling and spotlights the decline of facts. During a critical time when listening has been confused for action, Msimang asks us to switch off our phones, step away from our screens and step out into the real world to create a plan for justice.” -quote from TED talk discription

Activism, Mental health, Self Improvement

Getting through your worst days with mental illness + more

Having anxiety, depression, low self esteem, any mental illness or even if you’re just having a tough time can make it extremely hard to see the light in the future or even the light in that day. Here are some tips and strategies you can take to actively beat your worst days and relax your mind for even just a short period of time. Life can be extremely stressful and we all need to take a step back sometimes!:)

Ending it all is not an option. We all have days, weeks, months and even years where we feel at our worst and we don’t feel like we are accomplishing anything. Some of us feel as though the only resort is to end it all but my biggest piece of advice I can give is to think “Ending my life is not an option.” Wether you believe it, agree with it, think its valid or not, live by those words. Because although it can be extremely hard to see, there is light beyond what your feeling and life beyond what struggles you’re facing and you need to tell yourself that suicide is not the answer no matter how easy or good of an option it may seem like.

Write and walk! Get yourself a pen and paper or a journal and just write for a while! You can write about why you’re feeling the way you are or even relive a really good day that you had and why you are grateful for that day. Write about whatever your mind wants to let out. If you choose to write about why you’re feeling sad or what triggered you on that specific day, after writing it out, throw it in the garbage then go for a nice walk! Walk around, listen to some music or even just listen to the sound of the world and just take some time to yourself. Sometimes in stressful situations we forget to stop and breathe for a minute which will cause a lot more stress. It’s always a good idea to get some fresh air.

Netflix and chill? Sounds great! No, not the Netflix and chill you’re thinking of! Sometimes you just need to chill out and watch your favourite TV show or old movie. I personally like to have a hot bath (add a nice bath bomb or bubble bath!) and set up my computer in the bathroom and relax while watching some old Disney shows (those always bring up my mood!) Or a favourite childhood movie. This should take your mind off whatever’s going on around you and give you some time to just relax and lay low for a while.

Do some art therapy! A lot of people find drawing, painting or even just colouring extremely therapeutic. If you already have art supplies, Great! But if not, you can find colouring books and pencil crayons for under 5 dollars at a local dollar store. Draw anything you want, quote paintings, dogs, a skyline, anything your heart desires. This will give you something to put all your focus into. Having your mind very focussed on your art will relieve your brain for a while from all of its stress.

Talk to a trusted friend. Sometimes on our worst days we don’t feel like talking to anyone but isolating yourself for a long period of time can become extremely counterproductive. Meet up with a friend or family member (or even just give them a phone call) and tell them how you’re feeling! They may not be able to help you directly, but talking about how you feel will feel a lot better than keeping it all to yourself.

Take a really deep breath. Sometimes what you really need is a big deep breath! When something is making you sad or stressed out it’s extremely easy to work yourself up and bring more and more stress upon yourself by thinking of every little thing that’s wrong in your life. But do yourself a favour and just take a few deep breaths and try to make your body and mind relax. It’s a lot more effective than you think!

 

Disclaimer: There are just a few personal tips that I find helpful on some of my harder days. In no way am I saying these tips/strategies are a cure for mental illness. These are just a few strategies you can use in the moment to calm yourself down in a stressful situation or time. If you are or think you might be suffering from mental illness, there are endless methods of help out there for you. Like I said before, these are strategies for relieving current stress, although some people might be helped long term by these, not everyone will. Seeking professional help is crucial to recovery and know that you are not alone!

 

Thank you for reading!

 

Don’t forget to smile today!!

Activism, Self Improvement

Why self-care is so important!

http://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/buildingselfesteem/2015/09/why-self-care-is-important-for-your-mental-physical-health/

 

Here are the steps this article shares to help you improve how you care for yourself and your mind:

Inner Self-Care

  • Make a date with yourself. Spend an hour alone doing something that nourishes you, not work or things on your to-do list (reading, your hobby, walking around the neighborhood, visiting a museum or gallery, etc.).
  • Praise yourself when you do something awesome.
  • Read books and watch movies you enjoy.
  • Paint or write something that lets out your creative energy.
  • Unplug.
  • Journal.
  • Learn something new, research something you’re interested in.
  • Meditate.
  • Take a class for fun.
  • Take a quick nap. Only 10 to 20 minutes can reduce your sleep debt and leave you ready for action.
  • Learn mindfulness or connect with a spiritual practice that vibes with you.

Outer Self-Care

  • Eat something you enjoy.
  • Have a long bath or shower, sit around in your bathrobe, and read magazines.
  • Do one thing just because it makes you happy like my flowers in the video.
  • Do a mini-declutter. Recycle three things from your wardrobe that you don’t love or regularly wear or clean out your backpack/purse.
  • Help someone. Carry a bag, open a door, or pick up an extra carton of milk for a neighbor.
  • Stretch. 5-10 minutes to get out the kinks helps your body and mind.
  • Run or walk for a few minutes. Or go up and down the stairs two at a time, get your heart rate up.
  • Touch a pet. If you don’t have one, go to the park or animal shelter and ask to touch one.
  • Give your body comfort. Pick something from your wardrobe that feels great next to your skin.
  • Use lotion or a product that makes you happy.
  • Spend time with real friends and other people who lift you up.