In your lifetime you’ve probably been told to “Treat others the way you want to be treated.” This lesson is a good one but unfortunately not everyone uses it in their everyday life. The problem with us as humans is that we don’t know how to be kind. We all assume you have to constantly be ready to help anyone at the drop of a hat or follow people around asking if they need anything. These are acts of kindness but not necessarily the definition of kindness. We can and should help others as much as possible but we need to look within ourselves and ask “How do I, as an individual act in order to be a “Kind person.” or “What does it mean to be kind?”
This year I met someone at my summer job who has completely altered the way I look at life and how I treat people. The kindness he puts out into the world is absolutely mind blowing. You may not think meeting a nice person is something to be mind blown by, but I think the opposite. Genuine kindness can be hard to come across these days and I was absolutely floored after getting to know this person. What makes this individual so different from everyone else? Well, his acts are something that take a conscious effort 1.He will never make fun of anyone regardless of how much others do. This is a characteristic I didn’t possess for a very long time and struggle with to this day. The ability to push back against what seems like the most common opinion about someone. Not only to push back but to defend and rationalize discussion about any person or situation. 2 He never condones or follows any acts of bullying or aggression towards others. This takes a strong and confident individual. Standing up for what you believe in is hard enough on its own, but acting quickly and effectively to prevent a toxic situation from becoming worse is even harder. 3.He says a genuine “Hi” or “Hello” to everyone he passes. This may seem silly or unimportant but hearing a genuine greeting from someone you know and care about can make all the difference in your day. It costs nothing to have a genuine interaction with another human being, so why don’t we do it more often? Most importantly, he is an outwardly kind person to everyone he meets. This is important to me because it makes me feel like its okay to be who I am in front of this person. I don’t have to put on an act or bash someone to get laughs because thats not what they’re looking for. These types of people are looking for genuine conversation and interaction. Not the small talk and the gossip that small minds blow out of proportion. Now, It’s important to recognize and take after people like this because not only are these people hard to find but they are the most amazing people to be around. Getting to the point… We all need to be people like this! We should all learn to be outwardly kind and use our voices to uplift others instead of bringing them down. Give people the feeling of comfort when they talk to you! Stand up for yourself and others when people are being shallow or closed minded! Be someone that you’d like to meet. For myself, I met someone who is incredibly special and gives nothing but positive energy and kind words to everyone he meets. I now use this person as motivation and inspiration to stand up to acts of bullying and aggression, say a genuine “Hello” to everyone I walk by and even just have a more genuine, caring and positive interaction with someone. Overall just be kind to everyone because you owe that to yourself and to the world. Once we all find our “kind person” to be inspired by, we can take action to make ourselves more of a ‘kind person’ and maybe one day become that person for someone else.