“Stories are necessary, but they’re not as magical as they seem, says writer Sisonke Msimang. In this funny and thoughtful talk, Msimang questions our emphasis on storytelling and spotlights the decline of facts. During a critical time when listening has been confused for action, Msimang asks us to switch off our phones, step away from our screens and step out into the real world to create a plan for justice.” -quote from TED talk discription
Having anxiety, depression, low self esteem, any mental illness or even if you’re just having a tough time can make it extremely hard to see the light in the future or even the light in that day. Here are some tips and strategies you can take to actively beat your worst days and relax your mind for even just a short period of time. Life can be extremely stressful and we all need to take a step back sometimes!:)
Ending it all is not an option. We all have days, weeks, months and even years where we feel at our worst and we don’t feel like we are accomplishing anything. Some of us feel as though the only resort is to end it all but my biggest piece of advice I can give is to think “Ending my life is not an option.” Wether you believe it, agree with it, think its valid or not, live by those words. Because although it can be extremely hard to see, there is light beyond what your feeling and life beyond what struggles you’re facing and you need to tell yourself that suicide is not the answer no matter how easy or good of an option it may seem like.
Write and walk! Get yourself a pen and paper or a journal and just write for a while! You can write about why you’re feeling the way you are or even relive a really good day that you had and why you are grateful for that day. Write about whatever your mind wants to let out. If you choose to write about why you’re feeling sad or what triggered you on that specific day, after writing it out, throw it in the garbage then go for a nice walk! Walk around, listen to some music or even just listen to the sound of the world and just take some time to yourself. Sometimes in stressful situations we forget to stop and breathe for a minute which will cause a lot more stress. It’s always a good idea to get some fresh air.
Netflix and chill? Sounds great! No, not the Netflix and chill you’re thinking of! Sometimes you just need to chill out and watch your favourite TV show or old movie. I personally like to have a hot bath (add a nice bath bomb or bubble bath!) and set up my computer in the bathroom and relax while watching some old Disney shows (those always bring up my mood!) Or a favourite childhood movie. This should take your mind off whatever’s going on around you and give you some time to just relax and lay low for a while.
Do some art therapy! A lot of people find drawing, painting or even just colouring extremely therapeutic. If you already have art supplies, Great! But if not, you can find colouring books and pencil crayons for under 5 dollars at a local dollar store. Draw anything you want, quote paintings, dogs, a skyline, anything your heart desires. This will give you something to put all your focus into. Having your mind very focussed on your art will relieve your brain for a while from all of its stress.
Talk to a trusted friend. Sometimes on our worst days we don’t feel like talking to anyone but isolating yourself for a long period of time can become extremely counterproductive. Meet up with a friend or family member (or even just give them a phone call) and tell them how you’re feeling! They may not be able to help you directly, but talking about how you feel will feel a lot better than keeping it all to yourself.
Take a really deep breath. Sometimes what you really need is a big deep breath! When something is making you sad or stressed out it’s extremely easy to work yourself up and bring more and more stress upon yourself by thinking of every little thing that’s wrong in your life. But do yourself a favour and just take a few deep breaths and try to make your body and mind relax. It’s a lot more effective than you think!
Disclaimer: There are just a few personal tips that I find helpful on some of my harder days. In no way am I saying these tips/strategies are a cure for mental illness. These are just a few strategies you can use in the moment to calm yourself down in a stressful situation or time. If you are or think you might be suffering from mental illness, there are endless methods of help out there for you. Like I said before, these are strategies for relieving current stress, although some people might be helped long term by these, not everyone will. Seeking professional help is crucial to recovery and know that you are not alone!
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Having a good and healthy self esteem is crucial for living a happy life! Here are some articles and videos that I think are worth looking at if you’re looking to build on or improve your self esteem!
April 12th, 2017 marks Pink Day! Pink day is a day where students and community members wear pink to raise awareness for bullying and homophobia! To read the story behind pink day click the link below!
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Here are the steps this article shares to help you improve how you care for yourself and your mind:
- Make a date with yourself. Spend an hour alone doing something that nourishes you, not work or things on your to-do list (reading, your hobby, walking around the neighborhood, visiting a museum or gallery, etc.).
- Praise yourself when you do something awesome.
- Read books and watch movies you enjoy.
- Paint or write something that lets out your creative energy.
- Learn something new, research something you’re interested in.
- Take a class for fun.
- Take a quick nap. Only 10 to 20 minutes can reduce your sleep debt and leave you ready for action.
- Learn mindfulness or connect with a spiritual practice that vibes with you.
- Eat something you enjoy.
- Have a long bath or shower, sit around in your bathrobe, and read magazines.
- Do one thing just because it makes you happy like my flowers in the video.
- Do a mini-declutter. Recycle three things from your wardrobe that you don’t love or regularly wear or clean out your backpack/purse.
- Help someone. Carry a bag, open a door, or pick up an extra carton of milk for a neighbor.
- Stretch. 5-10 minutes to get out the kinks helps your body and mind.
- Run or walk for a few minutes. Or go up and down the stairs two at a time, get your heart rate up.
- Touch a pet. If you don’t have one, go to the park or animal shelter and ask to touch one.
- Give your body comfort. Pick something from your wardrobe that feels great next to your skin.
- Use lotion or a product that makes you happy.
- Spend time with real friends and other people who lift you up.
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